How is a traditional family
The Real Traditional Family
there's this crazy idea out there that a
traditional family is one with one
heterosexual man living with one
heterosexual woman in a house with
offspring who have a biological
connection to both of those sorry
that's a modern family and it's actually
a prescription for insanity as far as
our biology is concerned let me tell you
what a hunter-gatherer family looked
like where there were lots of powerful
strong women it was a roving encampment
of extended family members that may get
as big as 35 to 40 and then split off
into into two groups and keep moving
along foraging hunting by the way
hunter-gatherers only worked about 20
hours a day all work places were baby
friendly because you wore your baby to
work but you also had unlimited
childcare because you had sisters
auntie's nannies cousins all living in
the same group and they all had a
biological interest in some way to this
child you had some men very small
percentage actually that were pure
hunters that roamed and spread their
seed around to other encampments and by
the way when women helped those hunters
hunt they brought back much more protein
and in the few hunter-gatherer societies
that exist today on the earth they've
actually found that the gatherers bring
back way more calories than the hunters
but of course if a hunter brought back
something huge like a woolly mammoth he
got lots of meat to share with lots of
women and you know he had access to more
women the other thing that's very
important to understand about our
species is that we are the only species
in the world except for the pilot whale
and the orca whale is to have menopause
now think about it why would nature have
intended for women to have a good 1/3 of
their life where they are a wise
experienced efficient energetic but for
infertile but sterile why well of course
is to help raise those grandchildren the
human brain you know triples in size in
the first year of life it must that this
baby must be carried this long before a
Gerber baby food and strollers and
everything I had been carried by
somebody and fed continuously for many
many years on end so those young mothers
who had an active young mother
themselves a grandmother helped out had
more success in their G
stayed in evolutions link so what is a
traditional family a traditional family
can be anything it could be two women
raising a child two men raising a child
it could be a group of people raising a
child the most important aspect to a
traditional family is consistency
consistent scare givers a revolving door
of parental figures like you know mom's
boyfriend dad's girlfriend or nannies
they get fired every week is really not
good for the developing human brain it
starts to make them feel anxious and
insecure so consistent attachment
figures are very very important and for
all you single mothers out there I'm one
by the way I'm there 114 million single
mothers we're raising one in four
American children I want to remind you
to take very seriously your dating and
mating life because one of the dangerous
place most dangerous places for a child
to live is in a home with a non
biologically related male they have
eight times the rate of emotional abuse
physical abuse or sexual abuse so be
very careful about who you choose who
you choose to expose your children to
but at the end of the day if you have
grandparents around if you have brothers
and sisters and cousins your child will
fare better than plenty who are in a
traditional family
