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How to Act Cold

how to act cold are you tired of being

so nice all the time there is a certain

power in being mysteriously cold instead

of sweet and inviting acting cold can

cause people to take you more seriously

at school or make you seem more

professional at work try not to take it

too far though you don't want to

completely ice people out if you want to

know how to turn your personality from

warm to chilly

keep reading having a cold demeanor 1

don't smile often having a smile on your

face looks inviting and warm drawing

people to you

more difficult to read someone's

has a serious expression if you want to

be cold you should smile very rarely you

want people to look at you and wonder

what you're thinking be generally

expressionless and hard to read when you

do smile keep it contained don't break

into a wide open brain keep your smile

small and mysterious flash it every once

in a while to keep people guessing

what's going on in that head of yours

straight men might benefit

studies show that slang

less attractive to women

or the icy glare

look them straight in the eye and

crinkle your brow as if you are can

and perturbed by their behavior purse

your lips ever so slightly to show

you're cool disdain

don't let yourself look outright angry

or

you want your expression to stay

controlled distant and cold as ice 3 use

cool body language mastering the art of

body language

key when it comes to being cold

maintain an

of mystery and control by avoiding

speaking when you can use a more subtle

technique to communicate

have excellent posture stand up

straighter than those around you

don't be fidgety with your hands and

feet

when someone says something that annoys

you be expressionless and turned

slightly away stop making eye contact

shake hands lightly instead of hugging

stiffen slightly when someone touches

you for speak in an even tone when you

do speak don't let your voice rise and

fall dramatically keep it cool

come even tone even if you're feeling

wildly happy or angry inside don't lose

yourself in laughter or tears keep it

together and try not to convey too much

emotion be aloof and detached whenever

you're talking to someone five don't

talk about yourself keep some distance

from the

you by not saying too much about your

thoughts feelings habits and personal

life

people who are cold don't tend to share

in this way say only would you

and avoid telling stories or jokes that

might reveal too much 6 don't ask a lot

of questions

that you care about them and if your

goal is to be

you can exchange a few polite

pleasantries but avoid expressing too

much interest

you're preoccupied with your own

brilliant thoughts and ideas

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if someone does not hear you the first

time it's their own fault

you shouldn't have to repeat anything to

anyone

having a cold attitude

be willing to hurt someone's feeling

ask people questions or express any

positive

people's feelings

guaranteed to get hurt

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resist the urge to apologize or comfort

people when you real

if someone come

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you're not sure what they're talking

about

if someone expresses sadness or anger

then turn around and go about your day

using this non-apology is sure to show

the other person that you are quite cold

B we're giving too many people the cold

shoulder studies show that people who

ostracize others may feel as sad as the

person being ostracized to be fiercely

competitive work hard to be the best at

everything you do even if it means you

aren't demonstrating good teamwork

skills be ready with the smartest

quickest answers in your classes be

relentless on the playing field during

soccer practice excel at your job even

if others might look less capable as a

consequence

three be extremely practical and real

when other people are excited about a

big tournament coming up mention it's

just a game and

waste of people's time don't express

excitement over holidays in birthdays

for

father helping

so the lady down the street drops all

her groceries cross the street and look

away or walk right by her if the first

thing you think when someone asks you

don't second-guess yourself and don't

let build affect your behavior

whole person and

compassion Archer for tank

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for cold people

have empty

imagine you are walking

sidewalk when a car rushes by and sprays

dirty rainwater on

what do you say

my favorite shirt or Lyman

the correct answer as see Blair

murderously and say I hope you crash and

die be critical of those around you

don't give out compliments

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- if you like what they're wearing

eyes and change the subject

be careful who you trust behaving coldly

toward people is going to make you some

enemies as a consequence there will be

very few people you can trust

the

trust will be those who understand that

you're not cold at heart knowing when to

be cold one be cold in public it's

usually pretty safe to be cold in a

public setting you might cause a few

strangers to feel miffed but that can be

a good thing especially if the strangers

were trying to hit on you or get

something from you being cold and public

probably won't hurt your reputation or

cause any long-term harm that said if

you see someone in need of real help

lose your cold demeanor and lend a hand

think about what you'd want someone to

do for you in the same situation to be

cold when it helps you excel there are

times when being cold can help you win

an argument close a business deal or

score the winning point

with having a tough cold attitude when

it comes to getting ahead unless you're

taking it so far that you do real damage

to another person it's important to

think through the consequences of your

attitude and actions 3 don't be cold to

your family and friends the people who

take care of

to family and friends will

you feel isolated

after years of being treated coldly it's

likely that no

parents will still like to give you the

time of day

beware getting a reputation for being

can have its benefits but in the end

those who are generous warm and charming

attract the most friends

having good friends leads to lifelong

happy

want to consider cultivating the

traits once you've experienced what it's

like to be cold

don't flash your icy side when the

situation calls for it