a sexless marriage is a marital Union in

which little or no sexual activity

occurs between the two spouses the u.s.

national health and social life survey

in 1994 Lama natal 1994 found that two

percent of the married respondents

reported no sexual intimacy in the past

year the definition of a non-sexual

marriage is often broadened to include

those where sexual intimacy occurs

viewers and 10 times per year in which

case 20 percent of the couples in the

National Health and social life survey

would be in the category Newsweek

magazine estimates that 15 to 20 percent

of couples are in a sexless relationship

studies show that 10 percent or less of

the married population below age 50 have

not had sex in the past year in addition

less than 20 percent report having sex a

few times per year or even monthly under

the age 40 sexless marriages can develop

over time from a range of possible

causes according to psychotherapist tina

cocina the most common causes of sexless

marriages are that one partner had their

feelings hurt or got turned down too

many times

one got too busy or neglectful or one or

both partners has a communication

problem of some sort clinical sexologist

judith Steinhardt notes that problems in

the marriage like lack of trust

anxiety misunderstandings pressure from

children all can impact a couple's

sexual patterns some couples may have

sexless marriages because they have

different work schedules or busy lives

for couples with children especially

young children the demands of

childbearing and child-rearing can lead

to stress and exhaustion fatigue or

exhaustion can also arise from other

causes such as chronic fatigue syndrome


three can lead to a sexless marriage in

two ways it can cause a partner having

the affair to have reduced sexual

interest in their spouse and if the

affair is discovered the innocent spouse

may cease to want to be intimate with

the cheating spouse sexual aversion or a

low level of sexual desire including a

lack of sexual vitality due to age past

trauma partners incompatible sexual

orientation or simply one of the spouses

losing sexual interest in the regular

companion sexual dysfunction or

difficulty during any stage of the

sexual act including but not limited to

severe vaginismus or erectile

dysfunction lack of sensations desire or

ability to achieve orgasm resulting as

side effects of medication or illegal

drugs currency depressant drugs such as

Swiss can cause difficulty with

achieving an erection or an orgasm

sexless marriages can be caused by post

pregnancy issues and hormonal imbalances

which can be temporary or permanent in

nature or by illness of one or both

partners that having physical or

psychological sexuality for example

clinical depression of one or both

partners a marriage may also be sexless

if one or both partners are a sexual or

if the couple mutually agrees to abstain

from sex due to religious principles

avoidance of sexually transmitted


a platonic basis for the relationship or

the goal of avoiding conception other

reasons for sexless marriages are

resentment in the relationship due to an

imbalance of duties responsibilities

moral spiritual and religious

incompatible ideal spiritual moral and

behavioral aspects some chronic marital

conflict can generate a state of

permanent hostilities that prevents or

blocks sexual expression it's usually

the partner who behaves in the

passive-aggressive way the one who

blocks sexual intercourse as punishments

for some imaginary or real flight

received from the other partners then

feel resentment because of the perceived

rejection by the partner to lost

interest in sexual communication

loneliness anger and self-esteem

lowering our normal reactions by a

person feeling their sexual human needs

frustrated by the voluntary rejection

from partner some couples may be married

solely for legal purposes or tax

benefits that is what is colloquially

called a marriage of convenience for

example in the u.s. espouses entitled to

green card if married to an American

citizen or permanent resident another

reason for a marriage of convenience is

a lavender marriage which conceals the

homosexual or bisexual orientation of

one or both spouses habituation can be

an important factor as well frequency of

intercourse tends to diminish over time

especially after 1-2 years of marriage

sex takes place was the same person all

the time in the same way novelty and

interest can be lost and routine may