15 Ways To Be The Perfect Host, the ALUXER Way

hello alexers tis the season to be


the best parties and gatherings on the

block and as an aluxer you'll be

expected to pull out all the stops

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we've created the perfect list of ways

to be the perfect host with the most

so let the fun begin number one

take the party outside nothing says

classy like outdoor dining

if the weather is great or you're lucky

enough to live where there's a

predictable climate

then plan your soiree for a still night

in the garden or on your balcony

outdoor events have so many advantages

because generally speaking you don't

have to do much with decor

whether you live in a concrete jungle or

have a green garden

a simple table setup and some string

lights above bring the ultimate elegance

no matter the backdrop

when the sun goes down and the lights of

the city or suburbs come up it's always

so much prettier and dreamier than


and nothing feels more refreshing than a

night spent outdoors

plus the fresh air is meant to reduce

the hangover so

win-win number two bring

people together people enjoy themselves

more when they get to know someone new

and don't feel like a spare trying to

enter the conversation

as the host help people find their

common ground by introducing your guests

with a starter conversation topic

it also helps take the pressure off you

having to juggle a million conversations

all night long

use informative introductions to get

conversations flowing

for example hey doug have you met

latisha she recently hiked in south


aren't you into hiking too or claire

meet imran

claire's just come back from working a

year in germany imran didn't you also

live there for a while

giving people common ground to start a

conversation makes it so much

easier and puts everyone at ease and if

you're looking for a light

read while you get ready for your next

party why not listen to

brunch is hell by brendan francis newnam

and rico gagliano you can find it free

on audible if you use our link alox.com

free book number three create ambiance

with lighting

no one needs to sit in bright white

office lighting all night long

so consider the lighting when you're

hosting an event lower light but not too


makes people feel more relaxed and sets

a good vibe

if you only have bright overhead lights

then bring some lamps into the corners

of your room and then use

candles on the dinner table if you're

hosting a more mingling cocktail evening

then dot candles around the room

thoughtfully so people can see where

their drinks and snacks are

and it's always great to light your

bathrooms with candles when you host a

party it just brings the atmosphere

through and it's classy af

number four invest in great dinnerware

you're probably not going to buy the

good china and silverware you want in

one foul swoop

but if you choose a classic range that

you know they'll keep making

then there's no rush over time you can

slowly invest in a classic dinner set

that will serve you your whole life

plus the bonus of going classic is if

you break a few pieces you can easily

top up that set again without having to

start all over

if you aim to impress with keeping these

kinds of things standard then host

smaller parties at first

dinner for two or just four whatever you

can afford

once you have four of everything you can

start to aim to have

six of everything and so on most towns

and cities have rental companies who

rent out dinnerware and it's affordable

and if you aren't hosting people more

than once a month it might just be

better to hire as you go

this way you get what you need you don't

have to wait to host big numbers

and you don't have to store the

dinnerware if you don't have room in

your cupboards

number five keep it simple now for the


if you want to be the perfect host start

by checking if your guests have any

special dietary needs

from there you can plan rather than make

them a whole separate meal try to find

recipes that can work for everyone

unless you're serving soup or something

cold then doing a three-course meal can

really be hard to juggle

plan according to how much space and

what appliances you have

don't get ahead of yourself with a

27-step main meal that you saw on


keep it simple and it'll be perfect and


sometimes finger snacks on arrival serve

you better than a starter because you

and the guests can mingle

or set out a lush harvest table of fruit

bread and cheese

and let your guests build their own

plates and grays this also means you

don't have to worry too much about

dietary requirements because generally

there's something for everyone

if you're serving dinner hot then warm

up your plates to make it way easier to

keep the food warm as you dish it

rope in a friend to help you plate

everything and serving everyone their

plate at the same time is always a nice

way to create a relaxed social meal

plus you can also sit down and enjoy the

moment too if it's an evening of


then don't put too much emphasis on

dessert coffee and chocolate is usually


and even then you might not have any

takers if you do go with a plated

dessert then don't be offended if the

party winds down soon after

as a sweet ending usually sends everyone

into a dozy food coma

and ready for home which isn't always a

bad thing when you're a tired host

number six be thoughtful in the mix

planning a party often starts with

realizing you haven't seen

so and so in ages and you extend an

invite to them to have them come over

and meet up

you might then suddenly remember another

friend you want to see

and then some lonely guy at work you

promised you would invite around

before you know it you're hosting a

table of motley misfits and a staggered

conversation that everyone wants to get

away from but more on that

next consider the friends you invite

while it might be nice to extend an

olive branch to an awkward guy at the


it might be a stretch for them to meet a

whole group of friends to sit down for

an evening

a casual drink after work is probably

less threatening for them

and in the same way if you know one of

your friends tends to get really wasted

and want to party

while others are less inclined and

prefer rigorous discussion

then just don't pair them together for

an evening of intimate dining it just

won't work the way you want it to

number seven plan your seating this

might seem over the top

but a seating plan puts everyone at ease

simple name cards at places are perfect

to guide

everyone to where to sit not only does

it lead guests to avoid

awkward where to sit moments and then

shuffling to fit a couple next to each

other and avoid two exes from sitting

side by side and all those avoidable


it also allows you to seat people

together with like interests and spark

more pleasant and interesting

conversations for your guests

if you don't you might be halfway

through the meal when you realize by way

of screaming match

that two people seated next to each

other have very vocal and opposite

opinions of the israeli-palestinian


and that's when things get kinda awkward

while we don't shy away from tough

topics as a laxers

there is a time and a place for heated

debate and addressing these issues with

people you just met

can get fiery quickly and you might lose


great parties can just happen but mostly

they are well curated by the host and

that starts with the guest list

number eight don't underestimate the


if you're going all out and hosting a

big party then some live entertainment

can be a huge hit

we don't mean live goldfish invasives

please don't do that

it's kitschy and they die if you are

thinking of hiring a sound system and

just playing some tunes

off your phone you might want to call

around and see how much music

entertainers actually cost

most of them come with their own music

system so it isn't a major price

difference to hire them

instead and if you do hire them you

still have to consider the playlist

you'll put on

after their shift ends and check that

they'll wait until after the party

clears up to get their gear

after all music maketh the meal or party

so don't leave it as an afterthought

but more on that later number nine know

thy wine if you plan on playing the

perfect toast you should brush up a

little on your sommelier skills

we don't expect you to be able to open a

bottle of bubbly with a sword but that


really cool if you can but have a little

read about what wine you

are serving to your guests or if it's


then a welcome cocktail or a nice night

cap or something special you can

introduce to your guests

is a touch of class in a glass

number 10 get your table settings


having a great guest list table plan and

a delicious meal is all good

but to add to perfection the devil is in

the details and

absolute class is having the right

cutlery and glassware on the table to


to your guests this also means less

jumping up and down to get a water glass

and a napkin and a side plate etc

when you plan your meal plan what

dinnerware is needed

then hire borrow or buy it beforehand

a common mistake is forgetting you need

two sets of cutlery for a starter and a

main meal

if your guests need to use the same pair

for both make sure they have a side

plate to rest them on between courses

if you're serving wine or a specific

drink try to have the right glassware

it's easy enough to google the right

glasses and then rent them locally

some liquor stores even offer free glass

rental if you buy from them so it's

always worth looking into

number 11. dress like the host with the


the perfect toast shouldn't look

frazzled or have gravy dripping down

their shirt

whatever you plan to do make sure you

give yourself enough time to get the

food and venue ready and then get

yourself ready too

that means enough time to glam up for

the occasion and have a minute of down

time to calm the nerves so you can

shine like the perfect host you are and

if you need some tips on always looking

dapper as hell

check out our video 15 ways to put

together a proper wardrobe

number 12 if music be the food of love

then play on music is powerful and sets

the tone

don't leave creating playlists to the

last minute use your daily commute or

waiting in line to start crafting the

perfect playlist

song by song decide what the soundtrack

of your party

sounds like is it jazz or classical


modern pop or house do you want to rev

up the night and end up dancing or do

you want to wind down to do happy sighs

and comfortable silences among close


whatever picture you have in mind have

the music to match to make the evening

perfect number 13 paper

or fabric napkins serviette

napory handkerchief or doily no matter

what you call them

your party will need them one thing is

for sure

in the case of classy dining and napkins

always go fabric

the heavier the fabric the classier

reserve the paper napkins for informal

cocktail parties and backyard barbecues

number 14 stay seasonal when you're

planning your menu and cocktails that

require fruits or vegetables

always stay seasonal unless you're a

sucker for a scavenger hunt across the

city trying to find

some obscure ingredient it's better to

stay with what you know is in season

this will also ensure you don't pay

obscene amounts for something that is

usually as cheap as chips

and when it comes to season i'll also

play to the strengths of the season

don't serve cold food in winter keep it

cozy with soups

roasts and baked pudding recipes in

summer keep it light and fresh

like salads gazpacho and homemade sorbet

number 15. be yourself the best way to

be the perfect host is to be yourself

when your guests see you being relaxed

and enjoying yourself

they will also be relaxed and

comfortable to be themselves

this is what really leads to a great

occasion with tons of laughter

and plenty of fun so alexers equipped

with this knowledge

you can go out there and be the perfect

host the host with the most the hostess

ninja you were meant to be

now that we're at the end of our list

alexers we're curious

what's the worst host fail you've ever


and what's the most standout quality

that you appreciate in a host

let us know in the comments and since

you stuck with us until the very end

you of course get a bonus if you think

of planning a dinner for 10

is a big deal how about a dinner for 3


onga a food seasoning company in ghana

did exactly that

in 2017 a 1 928 meter long table was set

and nearly 3 000 people sat down to a


the guinness world record book

recognized the feet and awarded the

record for the longest dinner table in

the world

because it was one continuous table with

no break

just imagine the pile of dishes to wash

up after that

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